The New 27 Club
The 27 Club is a pop culture concept mythologizing the deaths of musicians. Its most famous members would be Janis Joplin, Jimi Hendrix, Jim Morrison, most recently would be Amy Winehouse and of course, Kurt Cobain. Some may argue that these are coincidental, but the chilling fact is that these music legends died the same age — 27.
I’m no music legend and I can never know exactly what these geniuses went through. What I know is the pressure being 27 brings.
It’s my fault, of course. I set life goals and gave myself a deadline. So the idea of turning 27 became a ticking bomb. I turned 27 last August but I did not die. Rather, panic exploded inside me.
Maybe this is what 27 truly feels like — clinging to the coolness of youth but feeling too old for some shit. 27 is like crossing the bridge to adulthood, like a second coming of age. Some may have given up, jumped off the bridge and entered The 27 Club. But some of us choose to brave the journey a little more and survive.
Where do survivors go? To The New 27 Club.
27 Rules of The New 27 Club:
- Don’t panic.
- Accept that people are different.
- You can only control yourself.
- Learn when to let go.
- Prioritize peace.
- Bluntness and honesty are not the same thing. There is always a better, less hurtful way to tell the truth.
- It does not hurt to give compliments when people do something right.
- But when people do something wrong, there is a respectful way to point it out.
- Work relationships are as important as the work.
- Credit comes to those who collaborate.
- Everyone’s lives are equally interesting.
- Be sensitive to other people as you are to yourself.
- When you feel like talking, try to listen.
- People will always find something wrong about you. The ones who truly matter are the ones who can tell it straight to your face.
- "If you worry too much about what other people think, you're worrying about the wrong people.” - Leigh Reyes
- There will be times you will feel irritated, make sure it is worth your time.
- Younger people can be arrogant but it doesn’t give you the right to dismiss them. Listen to to them and the arrogance wears off.
- Our parents taught us to read books, let’s teach them the internet.
- Looking good takes effort. Don’t be lazy.
- Drink to relax, not to get drunk.
- Sleep so you don’t get weak.
- Make time for family and friends.
- Facebook’s “Hide” button is an underrated feature.
- Sincerity over coolness.
- If you can do it in 2 minutes, do it now.
- Overthinking results to overreacting.
- Consume less, create more.
For me, turning 27 is what you make it to be. The pressure will always be there but we can always transform it into something productive and meaningful. 27 is start of gracefully growing up.
Nostalgia Series: Pinoy Movies of My Childhood
This year, I turned 26 and felt my age. Most people will say that I’m still young but 26 definitely doesn’t feel like 25. I suddenly feel too old for the romantic, reckless and selfish stuff I did when I was 22, 23 and 24. Now that YOLO is unofficially a word, I am officially over it. After all, when you round of 26, it will be 30.
My metabolism definitely slowed down and my idea of a fun Saturday night is being in my pajamas, catching up on my favorite TV series. Heck, I even started investing and learning how to grow my money bit by bit. And I refer to the new 21 year-olds (bright eyed, eager and self-entitled) as “mga bata ngayon”.
But I think what makes it more obvious to me is that I start to have a sense of nostalgia and that pride that during “my time”, it was all better -- the fashion, the TV shows, the music, the movies.
Now that 2013 is ending, I thought of finally saying goodbye to my youth through the Pinoy movies that made my childhood felt better than anyone else’s.
Captain Barbell (1986)
Directed by Leroy Salvador
Before we all thought JGL, Jesse Eisenberg or Andrew Garfield were geeky cute, there was Hebert Bautista. And he turns into the hunky Edu Manzano whenever he carries his golden barbell. Captain Barbell was a movie that made me root for the scrawny and introverted underdogs.
Dear Diary: “Dear Killer” (1989)
Directed by Leroy Salvador
Dear Diary was the movie that introduced the concept of murder mysteries and psychos to me. Although recently, I shared the plot to Wincy and I realized how it used Alfred Hitchcock’s “Psycho” as a major inspiration - a heroine investigating another girl’s mysterious disappearance, a meek, strange but attractive guy and a crazy mother. Nonetheless, Dear Diary was quite a memorable movie to me.
Aswang (1992)
Directed by Peque Gallaga and Lore Reyes
The best sequence in this movie was when the aswang (played by Alma Moreno) was trying to trick Aiza Seguerra’s character into letting her in the house by morphing into the form of Aiza’s yaya (played by Manilyn Reynes). There were two Manilyn Reynes, one was begging Aiza for help, the other one was angrily yelling at Aiza not come down from the bahay kubo and hold on to the jar of sea salt. Aiza helped the yelling Manilyn instead. When Manilyn asked her how she figured it out, Aiza answered something along the lines of, “Sabi mo kasi diba, ang mga taong mahal ka, hindi parating malambing o mabait sa iyo. Minsan, papagalitan ka nila kasi mahal ka nila.”
And my father conveniently used that to justify our family’s style of tough love, which I carried with me until now. Ask Wincy, ask my friends.
Shake, Rattle and Roll 4 (1992)
Directed by Peque Gallaga and Lore Reyes
I always loved the Shake, Rattle and Roll franchise until the 4th one, which was the most memorable to me as a child. It featured two of my favorite Shake, Rattle and Roll episodes: “Witawit” and “Ang Madre”.
“Witawit” was about a unique tree creature who kidnaps the village children as environmental protest against people cutting the trees. I personally thought it was a fantasy drama that teaches kids to take care of mother nature.
While “Ang Madre” starred Aiko Melendez as a nun who was on a medical mission in a poverty stricken area in Manila. By day, she gives children vaccine and blood tests (which she licks by the way). But when darkness befalls the gritty den of informal settlers, she turns into a mananaggal and eats people. This movie was very fun scary and entertaining! The movie’s hero, the young IC Mendoza, defeats the manananggal by squirting them with hot sauce and ketchup he stole from a night club. After all, hot sauce and ketchup contains spices and garlic, which traditionally are used to kill manananggals. Gave me my sense of pragmatism and logic.
Pare Ko (1995)
Directed by Jose Javier Reyes
“Pare Ko” is probably our answer to America’s “Reality Bites” and “Singles”. If there’s one thing this movie taught me, it would be: that syotas come and go but your barkada is forever.
And that girls who live in big mansions and invite you to play scrabble are needy and two-timing bitches. Not to mention, “Pare Ko” made working as a staff in Carl’s Jr. my short-lived aspiration.
Magic Temple (1996)
Directed by Peque Gallaga and Lore Reyes
I think “Magic Temple” was the 90’s Pinoy film industry’s attempt to produce something that Steven Spielberg mastered - the fantasy adventure genre. When I first saw this movie, I enjoyed every bit of it. Although recently, Wincy and I watched it again and my adult mind realized executional improvements, especially in the pace of storytelling. But my childhood heart will always celebrate the hardships and victories of Jubal, Sambag and Omar. “Magic Temple” left me an abundant sense of hope, humility and confidence that my adult self can always retreat to.
Labs Kita... Okey Ka Lang? (1998)
Directed by Jerry Lopez Sineneng
The I’m in love with my best friend romcom plot has turned so old, as seen in Star Cinema’s recent “She’s The One”. But “Labs Kita... Okey Ka Lang?” executed this tired cliché in the most iconic possible way. The movie featured the quirkiest love team in the Philippine history of love teams, Marvin and Jolina. It was set in the picturesque Baguio City. And most of all, it had the killer lines of all killer lines, “Oh yes kaibigan mo ako, kaibigan mo lang ako… And I’m so stupid to make the biggest mistake of falling in love with my bestfriend!!!”
Hiling (1998)
Directed by Jose Javier Reyes
“Hiling” is seriously underrated and sadly, forgotten. But “Hiling” is a movie that excels both in craft and heart. Through its tight and witty screenplay, I learned probably one of the most realistic lessons in life -- prudence. That most of the time, we don’t instantly get what we want, but we are always given what we need and deserve.
26 was a year of adjustment for me. It was a slap in the face that there are things I am already too old to do -- like whining, being selfish and skipping moisturizer. But surely, these movies I discovered as a child will still be my treasures as an adult. These movies gave me second-hand wisdom, lessons we can only learn from fiction, because our lives will be limited.
How about you, what are the childhood movies that helped you grow up? Share your list and stories on my comments area!
Guilty Pleasure Games
I remember my parents would usually take me to my cousins so I can play computer games. But I always felt like the console was never on my side - what I command the computer to do never actually happens. I end up too frustrated so I just watch my cousins blow up each other with their hadoukens and bring out their animal instincts.
My dad didn’t give up on me though! He bought me a Sega, with a Lion King game (maybe he thought I would warm up to cuddly animals and non-violent gameplay) but it was just fruitless. I’d just turn off the computer every time I reach level three, where Simba needs to jump from one hippopotamus to another. It was just simply too complicated for me and my poor motor skills.
So I gave up.
Well, until I got my own computer and iPad, and moments to myself - with nobody actually watching me fail. Now, I’ve gathered enough confidence (and mastery) for me to actually share with you the five games I secretly play!
Edward Gory-inspired illustrations, eery story and of course, war strategy - that’s why I’m hooked. The game play is actually simple: I just have to play tetris to gather supplies (blood, flesh, bones and some yellow thing that looks like cheese but I bet it’s not cheese, probably mucus) to create my army of monsters. Think of it as zombie scientist chess. Not to mention, there’s a time element - can’t send my troops to war when the sun is up!
Best played in: iPad
Download from: Corpse Craft on the Apple App Store
Price: Free
Design This Home
This is a no brainer, no effort. Design This Home relaxes me and actually allows me to design my virtual home (which strangely translates to real life now that Wincy and I got our space now.) I got to choose everything: from the flooring to the little furniture.
Best played in: iPad
Download from: Apple App Store
Price: Free
Streetfood Tycoon: World Tour
I first downloaded Steetfood Tycoon game as a substitute to my favorite and discontinued Ice Cream Tycoon. I’m rwThen I found out it was made by a Filipino game designer Erick Garayblas, whom I coincidentally rode the same FX a few years back. And Erick even invited me to collaborate with him - I illustrated Streetfood Tycoon: World Tour’s welcome screen!
Best played in: iPad (Also available for Android)
Download from: Apple App Store and Google Play
Price: Free
Guess That Movie
Guess why I love this game. Movies + clever graphic design, what more can I ask for?
Best played in: iPhone
Download from: Apple App Store
Price: Free
You might think this is such a “pang-lola” game but I’m really enjoying it. The game is very familiar and simple. It’s not too stressful and the interface is quite cute. Not to mention, their mascot looks like Wes Anderson’s Fantastic Mr. Fox!
Best played in: Desktop browser
Website: FoxyBingo
Price: Not quite, but it’s a fairly small amount.
So how about you, what’s your game guilty pleasure?
Image acknowledgement:
http://s49.beta.photobucket.com/user/WickedIron/media/Hadouken.gif.html
https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/design-this-home/id417272785?mt=8
http://monkeysesat.blogspot.com/2013/01/streetfood-tycoon-world-tour.html
https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/guess-the-movie/id375276782?mt=8
http://www.impawards.com/2009/posters/fantastic_mr_fox_ver3.jpg
All Hail The Queen
Call me archaic but I think in our modern age, monarchy still exists. We hand-pick our royalties from semi-celebrities to people who take their photos of their outfit of the day, unknowingly proclaiming ourselves as their followers. (Oh hello, Twitter.)
But there will always be the royalty we didn’t choose and simply invaded our lives - in high school, in college and even at work. They might not be the same person, but she’s definitely the same girl. The girl God made to continually make us feel insecure and inadequate. The Queen Bee.
Contrary to popular belief, the Queen Bee is not the girl you can never be. In fact, she’s the girl who’s almost as good (or great) as you, only she makes herself appear to be better than you. She surrounds herself with friends who will make her always one step ahead and bullies you if you attempt to wage a fair fight. She can be the girl who violently pushes you when you bump into each other. Or she can be the girl who gives you cake face to face and would attach a nuclear weapon at your back. Either way, she’s the golden girl and she will make sure you cannot outshine her.
In my 24 years in this planet, I’ve been pushed around, given cake and been planted with nuclear bombs from behind. I’ve seen girls fight back against the Queen Bees of their life but early on, I realized I’m not the type who does that. For years, I've suffered and wallowed quietly until I recently learned that the Queen Bee’s source of power is my very own insecurities.
So whenever I felt that my own Queen Bee haunts me and tries to paralyze me, I hear The Eraserheads sing to me: “Ikaw ang diyos at hari nang ‘yong mundo. Matakot sila sa ‘yo.” I’ll be reminded to let go and let the Queen Bee have her rule, find a myself a new passion to take control of. Something I can own and I can be awesome at.
And here’s my ode to all the Queen Bees who tried but failed to reign over me.
- Pretend To Be Nice by Letters To Cleo
- Boys With Girlfriends by Meiko
- Ugly Girl by Fleming & John
- Call An Ambulance by Albert Hammond, Jr.
- Tighten Up by The Black Keys
- Happiness Is A Warm Gun by The Beatles
- Crazy by Aerosmith
- I Can Buy You by A Camp
- You Know The Answer, Follow The Leader by Ciudad*
- SURPRISE TRACK
- (They Long To Be) Close To You cover by Cranberries
- Just Like Heaven by The Cure
- There's Always Someone Cooler Than You by Ben Folds
- Cool by Gwen Stefani
- Giraffe by The Miniature Tigers
- You're So Cruel Stephanie by Patience Dear Juggernaut*
- Bust Your Kneecaps by Pomplamoose
*You Know The Answer, Follow The Leader by Ciudad can be downloaded here.
*You're So Cruel Stephanie by Patience Dear Juggernaut can be downloaded here.
The 3 Kinds of Guys You Will Meet In Your Life
Archetypes, by definition, are universally understood symbols (or characters) based on patterns and previous experiences. For me, we use archetypes to conveniently summarize our life as well as the people we meet.
As children, our parents trained us not to trust other people, especially strangers (who may be out to get us and hold us up for ransom). I guess before, it was simpler because we just have to examine whether someone is acting like a kidnapper, luring us with candies. But now that we’re much older, its quite a challenge to tell if we’re about to have our hearts broken by guys promising us romance.
So based on my personal experience, lots of second hand information and exposure to pop culture, here is an unofficial collection of modern-day archetypes of guys we all could meet (or have met).
He probably is the easiest to identify because he is straightforward to a fault. His confidence can come off as arrogance but often, he’s got something to brag. In a normal basis, don’t expect him to voluntarily open the door or wait for you when you walk together. For him, chivalry is an armor he wears when he’s out to a battle to impress someone. And that makes us perennially attracted to Assholes - the thrill of seeing the difference between the way he treats the girl he likes and the way he treats the world.
His psychology: “This is who I am, take it or leave it.”
Fictional Assholes:
- Chuck Bass as played by Ed Westwick in the TV series Gossip Girl
- Sherlock Holmes
- Dr. Gregory House as played by Hugh Laurie in the TV series House M. D.
- Don Draper as played by Jon Hamm in the TV series Mad Men
- Patrick Verona as played by Heath Ledger in the movie 10 Things I Hate About You
He works out, drives a fancy car, plans his outfit for the day and he actually has a mental index of party pick up lines. He does everything over the top it becomes annoying. But The Douche is too concerned about his image for a reason - most of the time it is because he’s insecure. I would compare him to the durian fruit - pungent but can be a yummy eat. (Although I personally don’t like durian, you get what I mean.) When a girl uncovers what is behind the pa-cool image, The Douchebag can be thoughtful, honest and caring. (I know a lot of people will kill me for this but...) Just look at Scott Disick.
His psychology: “I have to build an image of a cool guy.”
Fictional Douche bags:
- Derek Zoolander as played by Ben Stiller in the movie Zoolander
- Schmidt as played by Max Greenfield in the TV series New Girl
- Jon Martello as played by Joseph Gordon Levitt in the movie Don Jon
- Seth as played by Jonah Hill in the movie Superbad
- Britt Reid/The Green Hornet as played by Seth Rogen in the movie The Green Hornet
Personally, I think The Jerk is the most dangerous of all because he is unaware of how destructive he can be and he looks harmless. He is brooding and reflective most of the time because he is internally conflicted by insecurities. The Jerk starts off as a nice guy. But as you go along, you will feel his sense of self-entitlement and its as if the world owes him something. Or as I prefer to call it, pa-victim. And please, don’t be fooled by his sensitivity because he is just sensitive to himself.
His psychology: “I’ve been a nice guy all my life and the world owes me. I think it’s just fair if I break someone’s heart.”
Fictional Jerks:
- Scott Pilgrim
- Calvin Weird-Fields as played by Paul Dano in the movie Ruby Sparks
- Dan Humphrey as played by Penn Badgley in the TV series Gossip Girl
- Russell Hammond as played by Billy Crudup in the movie Almost Famous
- Troy Dyer as played by Ethan Hawke in the movie Reality Bites
To summarize the archetypes, my friend Celina and I made this Venn Diagram two years ago.
I have met assholes, jerks and douchebags. Some of them I became good friends with , a few of them I dated and some I even genuinely loved. And even though I have the archetypes always ready to help me thin-slice the guys I meet, I also learned that archetypes are oversimplification of people. At the core, guys are complex people with insecurities, fears and dreams, all worth knowing. I believe we’re all smart enough to safeguard ourselves from each other. After all, like what Stephen Chbosky wrote in the book Perks of Being A Wallflower, “You receive the love you think you deserve.”
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Special thanks to Celina Borromeo for the Venn Diagram and all other inputs.
My paper doll illustrations are all inspired by Kyle Hilton's paper doll illustration.
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